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Quote of the day


Six months ago, I had a major self-doubt over an incident. I was doing all I can to help my team for a group presentation, but I was very much held back by one of the team members for not pulling her weight in the project. In fact, she reprimanded me for doing too much. But I did what I did because I wanted everyone to look good during the presentation. But judging from how things have gone, I wondered if I was half as good as I thought I was. Did I do it out of kindness, or did I do it to show-off? I doubted my ability and questioned myself.

I had an in-depth discussion with a group member about what happened, and she sent me the quote above by Will Smith. A powerful quote by Will Smith – “Never lower your standards to keep people around you. Make them meet you at your level. Self-respect is power”.

That gave me a paradigm shift. Instead of focusing on the negative, which was the self-doubt and get affected emotionally, I shifted my focus onto keeping my standards.

Then something happened again recently. And it reaffirmed my belief in this quote.

Tested once again

I have a membership with BNI. BNI is a networking marketing platform where we collaborate with each other through referrals. The weekly chapter meetings start at 6.30am daily around the world. Before the meeting starts, we have to set up the room to impress the visitors and for them to network comfortably with our members. You guessed it right – we must complete the set up prior to the arrival of the first member. This could only mean one thing – we would have to set up before 6am.

So on this fateful day, I arrived at 6am only to find that another chapter has set up their meeting rooms perfectly while our doors were still closed. Normally, we do not have a competition, but the other chapter was testing out a new venue on this very day and their meeting room was right next to ours. Now, I am all about healthy competition, but a competition is only healthy when we start with a levelled footing. However, it was clear that we have lost right from the start.

I immediately scrambled about trying to set up the room while the other members ambled in one by one. I felt pressured to set up the room even though I was not on duty that day. The members who have arrived were all asked to help, regardless of whether they were on duty. But, one member made a statement saying, “we need not worry about what others have done, just be ourselves.” And he made that statement in front of a visitor. I honestly wished that the ground would open up and swallow me whole at that moment. I felt nothing but shame.

Losing my cool

I lost my cool upon hearing that statement. I know we did not do our best, that was why we were scrambling to set up the room while visitors were hanging around waiting for us. Impression was down the drain. Truth be told, if I was a visitor, I would have selected to visit the other chapter that was ready, not my own. Because they were the clear winner in terms of efficiency and processes.

I let slipped a rude remark towards the said member amidst some other urgent matter involving the visitor host arrangement. I regretted immediately and apologised on the spot, albeit half-heartedly.

Everything went on smoothly and the meeting ended well despite the delays in the morning.


I was contemplating if I should explain why I lost my cool to the said member. It took me a while to wrap my head around the idea because I was not sure if explaining would help after many rounds of disappointments with other people. But eventually, I did it. Two weeks later.

I apologised to the said member, explaining to him why I lost my cool.

  • We left a bad impression to the visitors for the delayed set up.
  • We lost precious networking time with the visitors, our own members, and cross-chapter members because we were not ready.
  • We failed to bring out the best of ourselves because of the delay.
  • We were in a comfort zone. We lost the drive to improve ourselves.
  • We were not accountable for our own actions.

After my explanation on WhatsApp, the said member merely replied with a “noted”. I was not sure how he took it. I wondered if I offended him.

Rising to the challenge

The next day after my apologies and explanation, it was the said member’s duty to set up the room for our weekly meeting. When I walked in at about 5.55am, the same member did 80% of the setup, all by himself. I immediately dropped my bags to help. Setup was complete by about 6.05am

Upon further inquiry, he told me he arrived at the meeting venue at 5.45am. All the other members on duty were late, but he did not bat an eye and just went to work straightaway. That was impressive! I highlighted his effort to the leadership team and asked for him to be recognised in the next meeting.

The lessons learned

The 2 lessons for the day – to communicate and have self-respect. If I did not explain the reason for losing my cool, the member would not understand why. When he understood my reason, which was for the greater good of the chapter, he rose to the occasion and took up the challenge. He stepped up and improved himself to the next level.

With that, it was buh-bye self-doubt and hello self-respect. I thanked him later during the day, after the meeting, and we have both agreed to be a better influence for the other members. Leadership is after all about enrollment. If we can enrol the rest of the members to improve themselves, then there is no stopping us in getting the dream jobs/clients that we want.

Entrepreneurship Thoughts

384 days later…

It’s been 384 days since I left the corporate world. From a full-time employee to an entrepreneur. I must admit that it’s undoubtedly one of the best decisions I have ever made. During this time, I have completed my MBA programme (now waiting for the official graduation ceremony) and I have serviced about 30 clients all on my own. I will be moving to my new humble abode in a couple of months, which will house my humble home office. 2019 is a very exciting year for me, and I just cannot wait for things to unfold!

Through the 384 days, there have been some highs and lows, but on the whole, it’s been nothing short of positive! I have expanded my network by three-folds and I’ve received more appreciation than I’ve ever had over my 15-year-career. I am amazed at how simple things can actually be when you are working on your own. Instead of being reprimanded and being stressed out about not performing, while reporting to conflicting bosses, I now only have 1 focus, and that is to please my client. And let me tell you, it’s way easier to impress your clients than to impress a boss. Then again, maybe I’ve had very tough bosses, which in turn makes impressing clients much easier. So thank you ex-bosses!

I enjoy the fact that I can share what I truly think how a copy should go and I am a lot more confident presenting my ideas. I no longer have to be afraid of getting shot down regardless of how good an idea is. In the business world, there are a lot more opportunities to learn and grow than I could have imagined.

But perhaps the best feeling of it all was to have the liberty to make my own decision where there is no one to blame but myself. If I have made a wrong business decision, then I just need to acknowledge the mistake, learn the lesson and move on. Gone are the days of having to think of tonnes of excuses to justify why I have done something wrong.

I also get to dictate my own time, and I have learned the power of saying NO. No to inefficiencies, no to ridicule, no to unreasonable expectations, and no to things that do not make sense. I have much better use of my time now. I spend time on things that are important to me, and I am much happier because of that.

I have been very lucky, and I am forever grateful to my family and friends who are ever so supportive, and the universe for aligning everything in place. I am counting my blessings every day before I go to bed and I am confident that it will get even better with time.

Hobbies and Interest Holiday Thoughts


2018年让我在事业上做了一项重大的改变。我离开了一份收入稳定的工作, 决定自己出去闯一闯。从一间私立大学的校友关系部变成一个自食其力的撰稿人。2018年记录很多的第一次。但是每一个第一次都是美好的,每一次都有小小的成长。其中一项就是我自己去了一个我相当喜欢与熟悉的地方 – Langkawi。一般上都是呼朋唤友,三五成群,大家一起去的。但是,这一次我自己一个人去旅行。我其实已经去过Langkawi不少过五次,但这一次是我第一次全凭自己的喜爱来漫游。感触还蛮多的,以下的歌词是借这次旅行自我心底有感而发的:
踏上火车 穿过青葱的山边和草原
搭上飞机 穿过漂浮的白云和晴空

Entrepreneurship Thoughts

2019 Resolution

I came across this post on a Friday morning and find it very inspirational. Just wanted to share it with everyone. Take this as an opportunity to rewire your brain on the fear of rejection by reading this very inspirational post.
We are always looking out for recognition and approval by doing what is right. We have been taught and conditioned to avoid doing the wrong things since young. And along the way, we became fearful of rejection. And this fear becomes much worse with perfectionists.
I must admit that I used to be a perfectionist. But the entrepreneurial journey has scrubbed me up with reality. I have had a couple of rejections which I took quite personally, but reading this post really helped me a lot. It’s like someone turned on the light bulb and I can now see why I needed those rejections. They are all part of the journey growing up.
So in the spirit of sharing, I’ve decided to share it with the people around me, which is you. So do take a look and have a read even if you are not an entrepreneur. As I believe that this would apply to all areas of our lives. Hopefully, it’ll give you a dose of positivity on a beautiful Friday morning at the start of the year…and that it will last throughout the year. Here’s the link again:
Get inspired today!

Healthy Thoughts

Kampung Chicken

I’ve gone on a local road trip recently with a group of friends that I’ve known the past few years. Except for one whom I’ve known for more than a decade. I’ve lost touch with her for a while in between, but we’ve reconnected the past couple of years. It was during the trip that I found out she has stopped consuming chicken due to some hormonal issues she has had. Well, not unless the chicken is REALLY special, or certified to be hormone free.
And that reminded me that I bought a locally grown kampung chicken from my longtime trusted supplier – Fruity Wonders some time ago. I happened to visit Connie and Natalie with my Queen of the House. The Queen saw the chicken and asked about it out of curiosity. That’s when we were told that the chicken was truly farm-raised ala kampung style. These are Holland chickens and they were bred in a pretty sizeable area (three acres to be exact) where they get to run about. The sort of food the chickens are fed – grass, insects and worms, sourced directly from Mother Nature.
The chickens are harvested only after a minimum of 100 days to ensure that the chicken is matured with good quality poultry. I’m sure all those running in the 3-acre farm helps with building the muscles too.
With that, we were sold. We went home with the chicken and made soup with it (anything soupy is my kind of food). The outcomes are shown in the pictures below:

And the verdict of the soup and the chicken are:

  • The soup is less oily than normal chicken that the Queen buys from the market
  • The soup is sweet and has a nice meaty fragrant to it
  • The meat is lean, firm, fleshy and succulent. It gives you great satisfaction by taking a bite from it!
  • The texture is different from the normal chicken that I’ve eaten. Sometimes when the chicken is not properly prepared, it leaves a weird tarty freezer taste in your mouth. But this chicken does not. In fact, it tasted fresh despite it being frozen when we bought it.

From then on, all hail kampung chicken!

Entrepreneurship Thoughts

Happy New Year 2019

I have had a wonderful and blessed 2018. It was a year with many changes, but a year with all the changes welcomed.

I’ve quit my full-time job, ventured into entrepreneurship and survived for the past 8 months. I am very thankful for all the support and help that I’ve received along the way.

I’m constantly reminded that I am finally living the life that I’ve always dreamed of and I am gloriously happy about it. Here’s how I would sum up 2018 with my little rhyme:

I am finally living the life that I want, 
But it does not come easy.

I have worked hard to build my story,
And I’ve cut back on luxury.

I’ve travelled a lot more  
And never left hungry.

I am thankful for the opportunities,
And the friends that I meet.

I may have tripped over some humps and bumps,
But I’m full of positivity.

The New Year is upon us,
And we have a new list finally.

Let’s set some new goals and targets,
And see them through thoroughly.

My wish for you is to live it happily and healthily.
So that we have a reason, 
To celebrate 2019 with glee.

PS: It’s the first time I’ve attempted a rhyme, and special thanks to my friend Eileen Chew for helping me to perfect it. We had a lot of fun along the way.

So, I’m definitely looking forward to a brand new 2019 and I would like to take the opportunity to wish everyone here HAPPY NEW YEAR!!


Entrepreneurship Thoughts

Happily Self-Employed

Well hello there!
I figured it was time to write a quick update about my journey thus far to keep you updated on how I’m doing. 5 months in and I’m glad to say that I’m happily self-employed. I do not use the word freelancing because where I’m located, people do not take freelancers seriously. So I use the word self-employed, and I get a fairer and better treatment (aka being taken seriously).
Over the past 5 months, I’ve been to more networking events than I’ve ever had over the last 10 years combined. I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum of working hard and being lazy. I’ve worked 7 days a week, and then take 1 month off, then worked 7 days a week again. I have had 5 deadlines over 5 days, and I worked till 2am in the morning. I’ve worked at home, worked in different cafes (cafe hopping), travelled outstation to work (for a change of scenery) and back to cafe hopping.
For those who are curious:
Have I made money? Yes.
Did I make more? No.
Have I made enough to get by? Sometimes.
Is the life of a freelancer/self-employed close to what I have imagined? Yes and no. (Read this article)
Am I loving it? Hell yeah!
And is it worth it? Definitely!
I have to say I have been really lucky because I’m surrounded by concerned friends helping me by either giving me work or referring someone who needs my services. I’ve even received free meals from friends knowing that I may sometimes be strapped for cash! I cannot thank them enough, and I vow to thank them more when I make a steady income.

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I have had a variety of clients, and I will continue to look out for more. I’m learning every day about how to negotiate, how to manage my time, and how to communicate clearly. It is difficult to some extent, but it is also exciting and I’ve grown to be a better person.
I’ve also met some very interesting people on my journey. Some are weird, some are disappointing, but they all paled in comparison to the many more good people that I’ve met. I’m thankful for clients who are trusting and clients who are willing to give me the opportunity to learn and grow together with them.
Oh, and I must not forget about friends who are still remembering and recommending me to jobs that they think would suit me, or where my skills and knowledge would be useful. Keep them coming as I will never say no to a new adventure! Quoting from Richard Branson – If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!
That’s all for now!
Sending lots of love your way…XOXO!


Fruity Wonders enters a new market!

I’m terrible at keeping my blog alive. I know my blog post isn’t the most consistent, but I am trying. I believe in quality posts rather than just posting for the sake of posting as that means posting about anything and everything. I want my posts to be practical and informative. It is never about selling, but it is about sharing what I learn along the way in my daily life.

So here it goes.

Remember the lovely ladies, Connie and Natalie, who sell fresh and high quality imported fruits? Well, they have expanded to other items such as veg, fish and chicken too!

I am a big fan of fish. I take almost all types of fish with some minor exceptions – such as kembong, keli, and anything that’s too funky. :s
In their weekly promotion list, I noticed that they have included tilapia fish (非洲鱼🐟) and that naturally caught my attention. I mean – selling fish under Fruity Wonders makes one go hmmm… Anyway, I thought I would give it a go based on the wonderful experience of dealing with these ladies.
For those who don’t know me well – I know how to eat but I don’t know how to cook :p. So, I had to check with the Queen of the House on whether she is happy to cook it. And when the answer was yes, I was literally jumping with joy!

Before I made the purchase, I did a bit of digging from the supplier and asked Ms Connie where were the fishes from and how they were farmed. I’m happy to note that they were farmed locally in pristine waters with clean water supply. An aquaponic system was installed to further remove nitrate, nitrite and ammonia from the water supply too. This provided a healthy balance of water PH and the plants provided extra unique flavours to the fish and its texture.

The fishes are fed with marine pellets (aka animal protein) and plant protein to enhance their sweetness and remove the fishy smell from their bellies. The fishes are also given time to grow up to 7 months before harvesting to ensure that the flesh is meaty and firm. Unlike some of the fishes that we order at the restaurant, either they are too old (tough chewy flesh) or they are too small (light cottony flesh).

I was sold when Connie mentioned that the belly of the fish doesn’t smell. I happily got the fish and went home with my mum. Next, comes the cooking and here are some of the photos that I snapped while the Queen was doing the preparation.

And here are some of the photos of the finished product:

My verdict? The fish was fresh and naturally sweet. The flesh was firm and fleshy, and it does not have any odd smell like what you would normally get in the Chinese restaurants around town. Now, I normally do not eat the belly as it was never properly cleaned, also because of the pungent fishy smell that comes with it. I know what some of you are thinking – that’s THE BEST part! But, this only proves that one man’s meat is another man’s poison indeed. It is worthy to note that the fish belly was nicely cleaned and does not have any of those yucky smell (Queen of the House was very happy with that). It’s the first time that I’ve tasted what a fish belly is supposed to be like, and it’s amazing! So, to all those who love the belly, ok, I admit, I now know what you guys meant when you said it was the BEST part.


So if you are looking for some nice fresh fish, please go contact the wonderful ladies from Fruity Wonders.


My quest on being healthy – Fruity Wonders

Fruity Wonders exposes you to the fruits of the world
In my last full-time job, I interacted with health professionals daily. Doctors, Pharmacists, Nutritionists, Scientists, etc. And I became even more conscious about health. I started reading a lot more about how the things that we use and eat daily affect our health over time. Thus, begin my quest for searching for products and food that are healthier and cleaner.
In the next few posts, I will be sharing some of the products or items that I have found, consumed, and would like to recommend. Go on and read a little about it if you too are looking at changing to a healthier option.
I found this group buy call Fruity Wonders on Facebook and I simply love buying from them! Their fruits are fresh, and they do a good job with their quality control. I started out trying some simple fruits from them but ended up getting more and more. I even spread the news among my colleagues back then so that we buy in bulk to enjoy the free delivery! It was through them that I am now exposed to imported fruits that are fresh and of high quality: – Avocados (my favourite!), Spain donut peach, Turkey figs, US grapes and a whole lot more. If the items are not fresh, they will not sell it. They will call up the customers and explain that to them. I don’t know about you, but I totally dig that! I am happy to know that my seller has a strict QC procedure and I can buy from her without worries.

Photos credit to Fruity Wonders.
So, if you are looking at buying fresh fruits, or would like to try some high quality imported fruits, please do not hesitate to contact either Connie or Natalie from their Facebook page here.
Disclaimer: Sorry guys, it’s for those within the Klang Valley, Malaysia only for now.